Systems of Fear
I recently read an article about a 59-year-old Australian man who, like millions of others including myself, recently took an Ancestry DNA test hoping to better understand his genealogy. Fascinated…
Category: Adoption
Got Growth?
A few weeks ago I was having lunch with a former colleague and friend, Brett. Over salads we chatted about life, our children, and how things were going at our…
The Adoption Battlefield
This may sound crazy but adoption might be like a battlefield, metaphorically speaking. Actually, I should be more specific. When I look around my growing network of adoptees, I feel as if…
Existential Quest
I am not a philosopher, nor am I a psychiatrist or even a psychologist. I am not a shaman or the Dalai Llama. But I am human. And I do…
No, It’s Not Binary
Just because an adoptee has decided to find their biological family does not mean that they are going to choose them over their adoptive ones. It is not necessarily an…
Enough
The further I wade into adoption land as a self-proclaimed adoptee advocate, the more I see pain, loneliness, frustration. Adoptees from closed adoptions are struggling. There’s a never ending sense…
What A Year
Exactly one year ago today I put letters to my birth parents in the mail. Exactly one year ago today I surrendered myself to fate. Exactly one year ago today…
Synchronous Christmas
A first. Holidays with my biological family. Peace. Joy. Finally. Together. The end of loss and toasts to the beginning. Eyes into a soul. New, but strangely familiar.…
Adrian Jones 